How to Ask for Help
As a caregiver, it is important not take on too much responsibility by yourself. Caregiving is an important job but you don’t have to give up your health or wellbeing in order to be a good caregiver. It can be helpful to think about what you realistically can and can’t do as one person, then reach out to others for a helping hand to fill in the gaps. Accepting help from others isn’t always easy, but it keeps you healthy, helps your loved one feel less guilty about not helping enough, and lets others contribute time and skills that you may not have. Below are a few resources that explain how to ask for, and get, help:
Asking for Help
American Cancer Society
People often need a range of support services to stay healthy and be good caregivers, but they often don’t know where to go for help or how to accept it when offered. It lays out how to build a support network with other caregivers as well as how to find help from mental health professionals.
How to Create a Caregiving Plan (PDF Version)
Dana Farber Cancer Institute
Explains why reaching out for help is an important part of the caregiving journey, provides guidance on how to ask for help, and how to effectively organize help from others (it even has templates!). There is also a section about what to do when you thought you could count on someone for help but they don’t want to pitch in.
Adjusting to Being a Caregiver
National Cancer Institute
This highlights the many transitions that caregivers may experience when they first become a caregiver, including common concerns about asking others for help. It also has a section that highlights what to do when others say “no” when you ask them for help.